There's no doubt about it - what's happening in our world today is a very stretching experience. I don't think anyone would look at our current situation or look back a few months from today only to say, "oh yeah, that was fun."
We're collectively facing a hard and stressful situation. A time of fear, uncertainty, loneliness, and grief. We are smack dab in the middle of a crisis. And here’s what can happen during stressful times. We either double down on our vision and how we show up daily or we start drifting. We start reaching for habits that take us to a downward spiral. And we could look back 3 months from today and ask ourselves the question, how did I get here?
Do you explode in anger? Do you shrink into yourself emotionally? Do you hide your head in the sand and try to ignore reality? Do you try to detach yourself as much as possible?
I love the quote by John McDonnell, "Every problem introduces a person to himself." What a powerful observation.
There’s a quote by Oliver Wendell Holmes that I love “to reach a port we must sail, sometimes with the wind, and sometimes against it. But we must not drift or lie at anchor.”
There are many situations where we can find ourselves stuck in a riptide only to be pulled off course. It’s not a matter of if it’s a matter of when. So the problem is not that we start drifting (that happens to everyone) the problem occurs when we let the drifting go on too long.
I can tell you one thing. It does not happen in an instance. It does not happen overnight. If you find yourself in a place you don’t want to be in and ask yourself “How did I get here”, I can tell you with certainty you didn’t end up there overnight.
But let’s look deeper into what are some reasons we end up drifting.
Now, before you get discouraged I want to quickly share the good news part with you. Because there is plenty of good news.
Step 1: Create Awareness: Fully acknowledge your current reality and where you find yourself. Be completely honest in dealing with yourself. In every single area of your life. Awareness is the first step in creating change but more than change, to create growth.
Step 2: Decide on a Direction. Once you know where you are now you can start laying the foundation for where you want to see yourself ending up. What kind of family life do you want to have? What kind of career do you want to focus on developing? What kind of marriage do you want to enjoy? What kind of mental, physical and spiritual health do you want to possess? Answering these questions helps you get a sense of where you see yourself going.
Step 3: Start taking action in that direction: Once you are aware of where you are and decide on where you want to be, now it’s time to work on moving in the right direction and take small but consistent steps towards your goals. Yes, it will take some work on your part. But you are now aware of the gap and can start putting a plan together in order to bridge that gap. When you have a plan (you don’t need a perfect plan) but a working plan, now every day becomes an opportunity to get closer to getting back on track and moving up that track.
Here’s one thing I want to make sure you hear me on. Maybe you are listening to me and you are thinking I’ve slid off the track too far and I’m not sure I can find my way back. Maybe you feel like you are so far off you can’t even see “the shore” so to speak. Perhaps you’ve given up hope and you feel like purposeful living is just not meant for you.
I’m here to tell you that it is not true. It is never too late to hit the pause button and correct your course in order to get back on track. I want you to be encouraged.
Take this from someone who has done a complete overhaul on her life a few years ago. Me. Yes, you can’t change the past, but all of us have the power to change who we are becoming today and who we will be tomorrow as a result of today. Because the right choices today will radically impact what tomorrow will look like.
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